Compatibility

RoyBoy and I are very different. For starters, our brains work on totally different levels. He is a rocket scientist- the ultimate engineer (in my opinion), and consequently he views things very factually and realistically. He explains things that make sense to him and other engineer-types. And then he gets frustrated if you don’t understand, because it is so blatantly obvious to him.
While I have science in my genes and I am a pilot (very science-filled), I could easily have done something more liberal-artsy: photography, writing, early-childhood education. I am creative. Thus, I see things very differently from RoyBoy, which makes our relationship interesting. Somehow we always seem to want the same thing, but we understand it differently and that can create confusion, then frustration, then realization that we’re saying the same thing but arrived there two different ways.

Another thing that is very different about us are our attitudes toward life. I am very optimistic and a chronically happy person (odd, because I had clinical depression for the majority of my childhood and early adolescence; apparently anti-depressants had a permanent, lasting effect). Even my “down” days are only slightly less enthusiastic then my regular days. I can’t stay something other than happy for long: I am rarely angry, as my frustration peaks quickly then simmers to passiveness; my sadness is fleeting, because I quickly turn to hope. I am perpetually happy and hopeful (it’s almost disgusting, since I can’t wallow in self-pity for long)- I just can’t not be happy. Then there’s RoyBoy. RoyBoy is very realistic, as well as pessimistic. He’s about the only person who can bring me down, but only because I hate when he isn’t happy and I want him to be hopeful like me. He doesn’t see the hope like I do, only that failure has been the norm and why hope when fate has it out for you. I try hard to encourage him, but it’s hard to keep that up.

However, he says I make him happy; it’s what he likes best about me. Because we are so opposite, we balance and complete each other. We are very compatible. It’s pretty interesting.

I look forward to seeing our life unfold with our different viewpoints.